Happiness (in spite of no thigh gap)

Happiness (in spite of no thigh gap)

I learned two very valuable lessons yesterday

The first was a lesson in being happy with what you have. I went surfing with two amazing women – my friends Hayley Carr and Amanda Loveland. We’re all total kooks (the local term for people who can’t surf very well).

Surfing is the most frustrating sport sometimes, and I’m by no means a natural, or fearless – FAR from it (a “fun” wave for me is 1-2 foot!). And you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone to progress. And yesterday we had a choice. We could have paddled further out the back, got smashed in the sets, and been in everyone’s way. Or we could just relax and make it FUN.

So on this occasion we were happy to just BE. We became whitewash warriors, got the occasional green wave (they’re the good ones), and cheered each other on.

It wasn’t the most radical surf ever, but today we fucking nailed it.

Sometimes the winner is the one who’s smiling the most. And I think this photo captured by Hayley says it all.

Jules Surf

I really wanted to share this pic. And YET… I wondered whether to post it on Facebook at all. Because it’s my business page… and, um… my thighs are touching (shock horror!). And I think there’s definitely a love handle under that wetsuit.

But I want you to see where I live, what I do to stay fit, and what makes me happy. I could wait for the perfect photo (we talked about doing a proper styled shoot at the beach some time), but REALLY – would it have been the same? Would it have captured the same joy? Pfft – no bloody way!

Click here to see my Facebook post. 

So here comes Lesson Number 2:

I could sit here and think to myself “I need to do something about that thigh gap” (or lack there of), but here’s the thing:

I’m nearly 40 years old (yep – it’s happening in June!).

I train with a PT twice a week and do roller derby – Yep, those slightly wobbly thighs are super STRONG.

I used to be 14kg lighter once upon a time (after a radical low carb regime), but I am HEALTHIER as a size 10-12 now.

Confidence and happiness is sometimes waaaaay sexier than having perfectly toned abs or thighs.

So I urge you today – get out there, do what you REALLY want to do, don’t wait for the perfect time, or the perfect body. Don’t worry about whether someone is better at it than you. When something makes you happy, give yourself permission to drop your guard and enjoy yourself wholeheartedly. And screw what anyone else thinks.

Happy Kooks

If you’ve made it this far down the page, please share! Send this link to the women in your life who might like to read this.

See you in the waves, sisters!

P.S. I’ve since found out that #thighcleavage is a thing. Yep – these awesome curves now have a hashtag, haha!!!

  • Candice
    Posted at 11:57h, 26 April Reply

    You’re a beauty! I work hard to encourage my pt clients to train for the emotional benefits of working out, the physical stuff comes as a side effect of having lowered stress levels, from feeling empowered and strong… and enjoy what you’re doing for fitness (good company always helps!!) More often then not, when we are happy on the inside, we look healthy on the outside!

    • Jules Galloway
      Posted at 16:50h, 26 April Reply

      Thanks so much, awesome lady! You’re right – good company ALWAYS helps! xoxoxo

  • Em + Carla aka The Merrymaker Sisters
    Posted at 10:23h, 28 April Reply


  • Robyn | Modern Day Missus
    Posted at 10:10h, 29 April Reply

    Love it beautiful girl! The perfect body just doesn’t exist, so it’s just so important to love and show gratitude for what we have, and what you have is goddam gorgeous lady!

    Sharing on my page xx

    • Jules Galloway
      Posted at 11:59h, 29 April Reply

      So true… the perfect body is all an illusion. Thank you Robyn xoxo

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